I feel like my whole life is over because I don't have sex.
It isn't... but I can relate.
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Sorry for the discussion hi-jack, but at least it's proof that not all women are feminist, men-hating, sex loathing, lesbians.
Of course they aren't. Only feminist, men-hating, sex loathing lesbians are feminist, men-hating, sex loathing lesbians.
Quote: Its reassuring to know that there are women out there with libidos.
And no, that wasn't a women-hating vent, just a vent against being small-minded. And anger against the authors of such nonsense - folks more interested in selling their radio/TV show/book/ than in truly finding or capturing the complexity of reality.
I'm actually going on a date with a former WAW, but this is someone who sees and owns her part in her failed M.
Gabe,
Well put. I hope this puts to rest any hard feelings about this being about all women. Although I'm scratching my head as to how an article putting down men and my own statements ridiculing the myth of male inferiority have somehow turned into a need to defend ourselves from potential accusations of anti-woman bias.
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So the key seems to be timing - getting the two to try and care at the same time. Seems like only the LBS cares/tries once the bomb hits, and by the time the WAS turns the corner, the roles have reversed, with the LBS now in the "too late" category.
Not true. I tried again to re-ignite a connection for several months before she bombed. Flowers, caresses, hugs.
I never stopped giving gifts the whole time she emotionally walked away. I maintained my role as father and husband the entire time.
Could I have done more? Sure, I've learned a lot since the bomb.
It wouldn't have made one iota of difference, though.
The truth is, she wanted out for no other reason than she just wanted out. No affairs, no abuse, no addictions. blah blah blah.
I do believe her expectations of marriage didn't match the reality and she didn't have the tools or awareness to deal with that.
I also believe that much of that can be laid at the doorstep of her own parents divorce, her father's affairs and then moving far away with the mistress having little to do with her.
So now she has just perpetuated a new cycle for our own kids...a cycle I am determined to thwart.
