Wow, nice input on the topic, a rousing discussion. Jo, I can't believe you are complaining about 5 weeks since last sex.
Quote: I haven't a clue how to get rid of 'the baggage' as you put it, without getting rid of the children. If they're in my life, he's in my life. End of story.
True and not true at the same time. Sure, he's in your life, just like my first XW is in mine, but he doesn't have to be your partner, just the father of your children. If the mother was tied inescapably to the father there wouldn't be divorces or second (or third or fourth) marriages.
You get rid of the baggage by no longer holding out hope that you will be together again, work on healing your heart, and find someone that will treat you right.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
