I agree that "tried everything" really meant..."raised my voice, sounded crabbier, and repeated it numerous times, sometimes even when the issue seemed resolved previously".
Quote: I was the one who read the R books, offered counseling, unilaterally disarmed, etc. Even before discovering DB, I was in effect practicing it. She has never done any of these things.
So you knew at least by that point that there was a problem. She probably practiced her "tried everything" the year before without success and without you noticing and had already decided that your efforts were "too little, too late".
"Too little, too late" is also a humorous topic. It seems with just girlfriends/boyfriends, coworkers, and friends, that a heartfelt apology and other measures meant to show contrition is not too little and not too late, but with a spouse, nothing can be said or done to change their thinking. Taking a chance that it won't be too little and it isn't too late is apparently too large an effort to make.
But this discussion is maybe on the bitter side. It doesn't do any good. Look on the bright side; you don't have to listen to nagging anymore. It's great not having someone nagging incessantly, usually at the most inconvenient time, like at bed time, about the topic that supposedly was resolved during last weeks fight. Ahhh, precious memories.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
