Know what I find humorous? The spouse that asked for the divorce supposedly "tried everything". I can't recall a whole lot of different tactics that my XW tried. She could have bought a book, suggested marriage counseling, or perhaps even said "hey, I'm really miserable and if things don't change we're headed for divorce". But you really can't fault the WAS just because they have a limited repertoire of relationship tools at their disposal. I didn't have any either....fight or avoid. It is really quite silly how stubborn two people can be and how little effort, really, that either make to improve things.

My X would say this is funny too. She would claim she "tried everything" when it still mattered, and I tried everything when it was too late and not before. Of course, I no longer buy into anything said about me by a walk-away.

Oh yeah...I do think they are capricious loonies. And left behind women, I'm not including you.

Last thought, and I'm obviously just rambling, while women more often file for divorce, isn't it possible that men consciously or unconsciously give up and no longer give a crap if they piss off their wife, maybe even hoping that they will resort to divorce? Or maybe it was just me.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt