I guess I could post where things stand now with my XW. We've slowly, but inexorably been moving farther apart from each other. It's largely her doing. Over time she has come over less frequently, essentially now quite infrequently, and initiated dinners, movies, get-togethers, what-have-you less and less. I don't call or e-mail much. I do if there is something to say, but otherwise we are moving closer to two completely separate lives.
Before I left I told my X that I thought she needed to move all her stuff out of the house. I also told her that I didn't want anything more to do with her; that I wanted us to go our separate ways. She seemed fine with that. She did call on Thanksgiving, reason undetermined. We had a decent conversation. Nothing since except an e-mail from me asking if I could see the kids to give them some momentos I'd pick up on my vacation. Other than that...all's quiet. Oh, I guess I did say it was okay for her to swing over while I'm not around to pack up her stuff. She'll have to rent a storage unit, but that's not really my problem.
Anyway, that's it for my updates. As JDD suggested, I probably do belong in the "surviving the big D" section. Unless something dramatic happens with her, I wouldn't take her back if she wanted to. I miss having someone to share my life with more than I miss her. She's just something I'm familiar with. But I don't even know her anymore and I probably never did. That's probably the likely scenario...she isn't changing, I'm just finally waking up to the problems (I won't go into details).
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
