I guess this is the new thread since the old one is locked up. I just got back from vacation. It was very nice seeing my family and looking around for a soulmate.
I see that this area just keeps getting more and more new people in it. It's sad, but reality, and I'm glad they made their way here to kind of ease through this painful process with company.
Okay...the great truths I learned this week. Elderly women are very relationship savvy. I sat next to an 80+ year old on the plane and pretty much talked relationship stuff the entire time. Most of her daughters were divorced and somehow we got onto the topic. This is the second elderly woman I've talked to on an airplane that knew the secrets of DB and a lot of these relationship books without having to read about it. My take home message was save money on books...just listen to your grandma's advice on marriage.
One thing that struck me: she told me about her long marriage to her husband (he died 15-16 years ago or something) and the relationship she had with a man after that. She said what she missed was having someone to tell things to...to share her day, a newspaper article, or something else of interest. As I walked through the streets of Charleston I thought.."XW would love this." Having new experiences is great, but having someone to share those things with is really important...at least it is to me. I guess that's just another aspect of having a soft place to fall. I told my XW this because it doesn't matter anymore. If I was worried about pushing her away from me I wouldn't bother. I wish for her to have someone to share experiences with and wish the same for myself.
That's all for my musing for the day.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
