Wes, In answer to your question. I don't think I've found my sould mate as yet. My XH was not him and I never felt that he was. I'm open to finding my true soul mate but have little faith that he exists.
However, I have friends and family that I would trust with my life. I've never felt that with any man I've been with. The man who makes me feel "safe" (a lot goes into this) will be the one I will accept as my soul mate. So far, I've never felt that. Sad, but true.