I'm glad to see people writing philosophy. So using Jo's soulmate I'd still have to say I guess I haven't had a soulmate. No, scratch that, I have.

That brings to mind that one inspiration religious story that you see printed on everything...the footprints in the sand. I'm sure everyone is familiar with that story. That I guess would be the soulmate...when times got difficult, it was then that I carried you. If I was looking at the footprints of my life in the sand and saw my XW's footprints in the sand for six years next to mine, at the difficult times I'd look back and see one set of footprints. It was then that she abandoned me.

But that's cheating. The end result doesn't negate the previous feelings; that's using WAS logic...the so called "I never loved you" defense. At one point I believed using Jo's version of soulmate that she was and the fact that she left doesn't negate that. Otherwise you'd only know a soulmate at the end of your life.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt