I'm new to all this web site myself. My wife left me also about 6 weeks ago. Her other man in her life now filed for his divorce 2 days after all this we brought to my attention. He is also married with 2 kids of his own. She claims they've only slept once, but confirmed their love for eachother. I've been devastated like you, however last weekend after having a bad morning with her, we ended up research on the computer for books in this subject. Her interest is still got me confused because last weekend the weekend of nov 4, we got into an arguement after i came home and heard her on phone making dinner plans with him in my house in front of my two boys. I seen an atty on tues the 8th and explained two her what's to come going down this path. By evening, i had to leave again and i asked her if i should make another appt. with atty for us to go because she doesn't want a divorce but a dis-solument. She said no on tues evening due to the fact that she want me under her benifits and we don't have to be in a hurry to file. Then like i said previously on Fri morning wasn't good for me but that afternoon she was showing interest in researching this topic of infidelities and treatments. She claims the same as your wife where as she doesn't see her future with me and doesn't see a reason to try marriage counsiling. But she is seeing a individual pyche, but that person isn't helping me from the sounds of it. We've been seperated also, per my request, i asked her to move out the day she told me but she really hasn't done so so far. Just her clothes. I feel for you i know your pain. I just want to say that you need to find out what will make you happy and hopefully she'll see the change in you.
