Thank you Lisa and NYS, will definitely take you up on that read.
Unfortunately, Wife did did not do it in plain site of me - she had no idea I was there.
The problem is, she wants to be needed by someone who she wants. And she doesn't want me.
Regarding my 180 I see it was a bad idea which is why I am grateful for this forum to help me think before I act. Encourages me to use it even more often in the future.
Last night I saw a movie called "The House of D" where the estranged wife of a man who is struggling tells him " A man is a man no matter where he is. I need you to be this man."
Will see what happens in next meeting, but things are starting to look like maybe I should hang around awhile, even if it means dealing with constant bile in throat from proximity of OM
