My 180 is to suggest that my wife contribute to 50% of the cost of our counselling or I'm throwing in the towel and taking my son to live with me in Hawaii 3,000 miles away. Son says its what he wants too if we can't ever be a family. I think my purpose is to help her see she needs to take equal responsibility, but I fear I amy just be trying to force the issue.
You can ask is he'll help out with the cost, but let's take the notion of "equal responsibility" out of the equation for a moment, and let me ask you: is footing the whole bill yourself worth the expense to you in possibly helping your relationship? And if she says "no can do", does that really mean you want to scrap it all?
This morning she called and asked "why I was doing this" not exactly sure what "this" is that in her eyes I am doing
Ask her.
After thinking about it she said "I guess I just need (needed?) to feel needed. That floored me because I need this woman like air and water.
There's been tremendous miscommunication (of having her feel wanted) between you two. That's something to work on to make it more effective.
