A friend of mine had a real good point the other day. He and I sat and had lunch and talked about our lives. We got on the subject of W and I. He said that communication seems to be a major problem. Of course he's absolutely right. I grew up in a house where we discussed and analyzed everything together, my W did not. She grew up in a house where her father was always in pursuit of the next better job and mom was always on the verge of flying of the handle. Everything was done to keep mom "sane" and to get dad's approval.
In our sitch, I have tried to talk, but that just gets brushed aside and avoided until it's at a critical point, then it's difficult to get a decent outcome/result. I don't forsee our R getting better unless this problem gets fixed. Add to that my W feeling that since she doesn't want to deal with it, it's not going to be fixed, so just let's cut bait. Luckily, with the most recent family dissaster, things have turned out fairly well and things are kind of upbeat.
If there is anyone with some insight, I'm all ears.
