I have been thinking about what you had to say. To often it's a no win sitch. Either I'm too easy and she is having to deal with stuff she doesn't want to make decisions on, or I'm being too hard, at which point she is quick to jump in and tell me to mellow out. W came from a home where her mom was an emotional roller coaster, as was her mom. Unfortunately this was not evident until too late and I didn't have much time to rethink. As a result too much revolves around W's ability to cope. Later I resolved to just learn how to deal with it.
I have stood a few battles, however I want it to be a standing firm, not a throwing down of the gauntlet. If she feels like I'm trying to manuver her into a corner, her fur will go up. So I will try to be strong and confident, not out to pick a fight. There are positives, but I'm worried about her changes not becoming complete, kind of stalling half way up the hill. So I pray for comfort and guidance. I'm trying hard to not let myself become the WAS, too much at stake.
