Phoenix, you seem to be reading between the lines a little too much maybe? Yeah, I know it's hard not to do that, I'm guilty as charged.
Quote: She wants someone to control her out of control life, but still let her call all the shots and do whatever she wants.
Wow, what a statement! Is that MLC? then I am definitely there too. Problem is, I can't get someone to do it for me! Have you tried to dissect any of this? pick it apart, see if there is a piece you can exert control over, see how that works for you. And just maybe, she'd start losing her balance on that fence post.
Are you refering to MY H/spouse? - humble??!! not a chance. I'll hold out a while longer for learn and change. 2 out of 3 isn't bad, right? Reality is to stay patient and keep waiting, waiting began for you and me and so many of us a long long time ago.
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