Hey Xue and Being me. First off, yes Xue fine tune does seem to be the best way to descibe it. As things seem to be warming up, also I think W is seeing that I'm not holding her back, but not encouraging or providing any negative actions. Right now I think W sees that she probably has about the best sitch she could have right now and save face. W is not big on admitting she is wrong, certainly not going to own up to it. As most of us know here that's usually what drags it out the most.
That said, she has been fairly upbeat in general. Plans seem to be said more in a long term context. To follow up about the waitress. There seems to be alot of those kinds of incidences lately, but like you've noticed, I don't say a thing, just listen and note what was said. Maybe she will see that the Lord is sending a message, hopefully she will hear before a 2 x 4 is needed. Let's see if she is humble enough to listen. My feeling is yes, it's starting to sink in.
Children are very powerful angels, they have said a lot that I would have loved to have said. Hopefully, it will sink in and have the positive effect I hope for. I think it is quite obvious that the kids will not "be alright with whatever happens". Most of these "experts" will say whatever you want to hear, I go by the feeling voiced by friends of mine, who were children of D and are still not "alright" with it. Some of them even dispise(sp?) their parents and resent the lies that they were told just to save face for the parents. As a result I listen very closely to these kids of mine and put my nose back to the grindstone every time I hear them.
My kids will know that their Dad will not let them down, I can't speak for their Mom, that's up to her. I just hope W will get her act together so that the kids will not have the wrong concepts of marriage ingrained in their mind. Certainly W does not want this to go on for more generations.
