Thought I'd stop by your thread. I was able to read parts but have some time limitations. Looks to me like we're in similiar boats.
As you know I moved into piecing just a couple months ago.
Like you, our R problems seem to be solved but we're not where we need to be. Kind of in limbo. We spend a great deal of quality time together and she certainly doesn't seem to be heading out the door anymore. But she is remaining distant physically.
There is future talk.
Many times I've hit a point where I think I am done changing myself. Then I'm hit in the head with another big realization and get back to work.
I feel at this point I'm more in fine tuning mode. I still see things to work on but I've come a long way.
This place is even more frustrating than when things were bad. We seem to be the perfect couple. Yet we are not yet there. I've got to go but I will come back and read your thread some more when I get a moment.