I know what you mean about true friends, Phoenix! I learned a lot about that, too. I discovered some truly awesome friends, and am extremely grateful to them. It really is a journey, and we just have to do the best we can, with the emotional armour that we have been given. Above all, not to let someone else, no matter how much we love them, be in control of our choices. Ultimately, you have to decide what is best for you. Staying because of the children isn't always the best choice, but one should give it everything you have before deciding to risk the split. I am one that takes risks - I believe that if you don't risk something, than you gain nothing - not even a lesson learned.
Anyway, I'm having a pretty off day to day - still strong, but finding I have to keep myself really busy to keep my mind off things I don't want to think about.
Stay well!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim