I think I'm getting to that "comfortably numb" state too. As with any good father I don't want to see my childrens' life riddled with the effects of divorce, but some days I see the effect of what W is currently doing and wonder if it's any better. For now I have just pulled back and am just going to let this one play out as it will. Sooner or later I think W will have to either stand up and do something or be held accountable for what she is doing. As you can imagine, at that point I will just say/think, I have done what I can, but I can't answer for you.
Right now I am at peace with my efforts in this R, if this fails, she will have to answer to God. As you know she has ALOT to answer for and lame excuses won't float. I just hope that sooner more than later she catches the vision again and gets down to business.
That talk with a friend did help, he came from a divorced home and has never married. He could never seem to see the trust that was needed for a loving marriage, nor could he see positive outcomes for his friends that did marry. It's probably too late for him, however he would of been a great dad. These S that cause this problem don't see the far reaching effects of their choices. As far as I know, non of his siblings married either. Really sad.
On the positive side, the major project is moving forward and providing a much needed distraction. Alot of new faces in my life, people who need me and value my talents. This year should be a long ride, hopefully all will turn out well.
