You're definately on the right track. Right now I am starting to see some very definate improvements. Was there an epiphany? I don't think so, more or less a softening of heart and passing of time. Perhaps a slow realization that with the improvements that we have made that there is very little to place the old hard feelings/blame on.
If we improve and become pleasant to be around, perhaps the loving, caring person we should be, there will be a change of heart. Your observation in regards to caring and affection, yes, there will be some wait, I know I am. But like I mentioned though, things do seem to be improving. My toughest thing right now is trusting her changes, see if she is showing light, just to slam the door. But as a person who has gone through what I have, I have to give it a chance and see what happens. It is hard to forgive and continue to love someone who does not seem to deserve it, but I keep looking at it as "what if the shoe was on the other foot".
Sorry about the delay, I've been a little apprehensive of my sitch. Perhaps my feeling are a little caulused(sp?) and I'm trying to sort out what's real and what's not. I think I'm going to go back and review 5LL and see if I'm on track there.
