What to do next?

[BeingMe]

Hi again, Phoenix! Still in limboland, 'eh! Not a nice place to be. I think worse than in my sitch. I don't intend doing anything for Valentine's or for our 20th anniversary next month. No sirree bob! This girls done with trying to win something back, that's probably been gone for too long. I have mentally set my H free, and if he finds his way back, then it was meant to be.

Have you spoken to your W about D15's demeanour? As parents, we are responsible for how we set an example, so perhaps she needs to be made aware of the effect her attitude is having on the children? Is this the legacy she would like to leave for them - a selfish, self-centred, tuned out, mother, who only thinks of her own happiness, and quick fix good feelings, and fantasy of being right? (I posed this question to my H in the beginning of all the cr#p, and he obviously said no, but it doesn't mean they can act on it). Dr. Phil's website has a lot of info on this kind of thing, and it has really made me think about how I want my kids to remember me.

Good luck, and I think of you often!