The Dreaded CoWorker peer pressure. Been there, it's tough to crack. I assume W works full time? spends 8 hours a day or more with them? Do you or can you call her at work? take her out for lunch? drop off chocolates? something to break up the flow of 'good times roll without our husbands?'
What's up for yourself? Staying busy? Staying positive?
Lit her up in a good way or a bad way?
You're sounding tired and frustrated, I sure know how that feels. Wanna tell us more?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.