Phoenix, I said something very similar to that, about not thinking another year would come and go and we'd still be together. So, that means we're not doing something right. We're stuck in those ruts, and not doing enough to change what's not working. I sure don't have the answers, or I'd use them myself and hand them to you too. But, if what you've been doing isn't working, or working enough, then change it.
I always look forward to your posts, I get such a close feeling to my own problems from what you write. I just wish I had the answers for us.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.