Quote: "Get out, for God's sake man! Get out! You've served your time. Your kids are suffering! You've done your time!" In fact, I believe I've screamed those very words at him.
But Zbube has made it very clear repeatedly over and over time and time again that he is not getting out
I am not suggesting ZB get out, though the thought does have merits. In some ways I am like him.
I just want ZB to have less financial pressure. I read that he has payments on 2 houses and Ms. ZB wanted to spend another $7,000 for a quad cycle for the kids. ZB said something about almost being bankrupt. I just want him to have a place to live and where he can maintain a family in some comfort. If I were ZB I would ask myself, “do I want a house to live in, or do I want a quad cycle?
Maybe ZB is not in that tight of a $$$$ situation now. Maybe my 3 years in college with some people that lost jobs, got down-sized, had little income for several months, had to sell assets, caused me to think financial cushion, where is it for ZB.
I read another web site about men in mid-life-crisis, that sometimes walk out on the family because they feel burdened by the family’s irresponsible and selfish actions. I would rather not see ZB walk out completely. But none of this is for me to decide. It’s ZB’s choice. I am just suggesting Ms. ZB is loading more on to his plate than is fair.
Lil's
Quote: I have decided to support that decision, because I don't want him to be all alone in this.
I support ZB too because I know he won't leave but separate households is an option if "HE" chooses.
Quote: As long as we keep questioning his decision, he has to keep defending it to us and to himself.
ZB's decisions are his. All I want to is give support to ZB and encourage him not to be a doormat.
Lil, it is difficult for me to see ZB get what I call crumbs while others in the family enjoy cake.
