Quote: But the question is, does applying humor help or hurt? If I make a joke of it, does that allow her to dismiss the genuine feelings behind the reply? Would I be better served by something like, “W, you know nothing’s going to happen. So why pretend?”
Humor immediately adds a layer of "this is funny, therefore it's not too important."
There are some situations in life that the humor should be held away from, at least until a later time. (HD, you had me cracked up.)
Don't pacify your own discomfort with laughter when speaking to your wife, because it will dilute your message.
