I understand your dilemma and hope you can find a livable solution. I am trying to do the same. One other thought regarding:
My feelings of being responsible for W played a big part in my coming back to her after the D.
Just be sure this is all you and not a manipulation of you by her. After all, she is a narcissist and the master at manipulation. You can’t hold a candle to her in this arena, plus you won’t even know when she’s doing it to you. Just be aware.
