I understand that only PhDs are qualified to diagnose personality disorders like narcissism, so I assume the guy is qualified and should know what he is talking about. So since she is a certified narcissist, I think you are completely fooling yourself if you think this woman will EVER change. Having her read a crate full of books won’t do it either. Zbube, I agree with Blackfoot that you MUST throw her out. You should not have any problem in court. You can get custody of your daughter and should be able to keep the house. She will have to pay you child support, assuming she works.
If you keep your daughter in this situation, then in my eyes you are culpable. I think the law may see it that way too. You MUST go see a lawyer.
Not only should you get your 14 year old into counseling, but you should get the others to go too, including the oldest. Don’t give them the option, tell them they must do so. The initial few visits have to do more with overcoming the shame and coming to terms with their mother’s condition, but it will get easier for them.
Everyone’s been giving me a lot of grief lately, even you. I am trying to work through my sh*t. It all comes from having a narcissistic mother. You kids are already “infected” but you won’t see the symptoms until later in life, after they get married. At that point it is damn hard to clean yourself out. You need to read up on this.
