Quote: Sounds to me if it were not for his code of confidentiality he may be inclined to call Child Welfare on her.
Where I come from, child welfare trumps confidentiality. If the T thought that the kids were in danger, he would be obligated to report it. That's not my take on what he's saying.
Z-bube has been around here for ages and now y'all are getting all up in arms and telling him to run for cover because his W used to hit the kids.
Teenage fantasies of parents splitting are a bit romanticized and can't compare with the reality of a split. I'm sure the kids are miserable in a lot of ways, but that doesn't make them unique. A split would change the flavor of that misery, but not cure it. I do think it's critical to have an adult validating their reality, confirming that their mother's behavior is not healthy or acceptable.
Z-bube, it's a tough spot and it must be disheartening to hear the T's opinion. He may be wise and experienced and trusted, but he doesn't have a crystal ball. He may well be right, but no one knows for sure. Take what is useful from the information he gave you and do what you think is best.
