When he asks for an overnight I will give it to him. Although I hope to have a few days warning. My concern right now is the weekends. First he takes them Tues and Thurs mornings. On the weekend he stops by on either Sat or Sun, and I never know when. This is how is has gone. First weekend, expected - no show (each day) Second weekend part of Sun at planned event for his great aunt third weekend no contact forth through sixth planned visits. limited and not timely Seventh was a turning point, he said that he would call when he wok up Sun come over, needed help with a paper and wanted to see kids b4 work (at 5) he called while on his way at 6, I was driving down the driveway, I ran my errand and came home so the kids could see their father. He barely spoke to them and left at 8:30 Weekend 8-12 he has not planned anything in advance, show up at the door without calling sometimes, others he calls and is upset if I have not returned his call within an hour. One of those weekends was his son's first birthday, whose party he missed b/c according to him I failed to remind him enough times (3 since move out not enough) I try to get him to comit to something, ie church, Halloween trick or treating. Thus far I can't get much more than a few hours notice. I am not being too assertive. What I want is notice. BTW the Tues/Thurs thing is another not so consistent thing, but I work those days, so it is just getting daycare coverage, not affecting my plans directly. He is not being a good father right now, I don't want to point this out to him too directly, won't do much for our R. Yes he needs to have the kids for a few days by himself. Needs the middle of the night calls, the wet beds and cloths, the spit-up the cries, the refusal to sleep, the laundry, the feeding, the shoping with them, the getting them up and dressed and out the door timely. My twins will be 3 soon and he has never had to do this.
