I'm not piecing yet. Maybe I never will be, I pray each day for God's intervention. My H and I have 3 small boys, we are separated, he has OW, things were not great between us, but I was blind. We work opposite shifts and he is also in school. he takes the kids on Tues and Thurs while I am at work. but the weekends are a different story. I never know if/when he will show up, or for how long. It's been 12 + weeks now and I basically let him do as he pleases. He has not asked for an overnight yet. When he left, I asked him not to take them right away b/c I couldn't take it, he agreed, I am also nursing. I know that it is only a matter of time. Between now and then I keep being told that I need to set boundaries re: him making plans for the kids. I just don't know how, and am constantly afraid that whatever I do will only drive the wedge that we have between us deeper. We barely talk at all, mostly around the kids, so there isn't much said there as we are both good enough parents not to say things infront of them. I so desperately want to talk with him more, but I wait for him to lead. I am looking for advise from anyone who has survived far enough to be piecing who has had to deal with this type of boundary issue with a spouse. Although I know that every stich is different, please give me some ideas of what has worked.
