I guess what really bothered me about it is the part of "not doing all the bending". Sometimes it feels like we are doing all the bending when they where the ones that left.
Well that stands to reason doesn't it? I mean, if someone doesn't want the relationship, you can't expect them to do any of the work on salvaging it. That leaves all the work to be done by the person who wants the relationship.
In context with what was posted about "not doing all the bending", it had to do with how two people in a relationship should compromise... we're not exactly in that type of situation/relationship.
And if they left because they did not want to be in the R any more than, no matter how much we DB, they won't stay.
That was precipitated by "if he doesn't want you". In our sitches, that may truly be the case, or not. It may just appear to be the case sometimes, as the WAS is dealing with issues and problems within themselves that account for their bizarre actions. When it comes to WASs, we're not always talking about people who, when they walk, aren't conflicted and truly clear about what they're doing.
