Sorry to hear things are not that spicey in your life.
Sounds like your H has nothing to complain about with toe curling BJ's and all. Gosh my H would give his left nut to say that.
You did not mention if your sex drives were compatable or not. Alot of people here have frequency discrepencies.
You say your H is inhibited how inhibited are you? Sounds like your hands are all over your H. What about you? Obviously you know what pleases you have you ever incorporated that into your sex. I am a clit person. And if my H is alittle to wrapped up in his self or if the position does not allow him to stimulate that part I have no problem taking on the task myself. It took me awhile to be able to do this instead of just get angered by the dissapointment of not achieving O's. And in hindsight I do not know what my hang up was with the whole concept in the begining. If you fear your H would have a problem with you touching yourself in his presences there are things like ball rings with clit stimulators attached which are also great for positions that don't allow either of you to be free handed.
Do you ever watch porn together? There are some porn movies you could slip in that are nothing but movies showing a man how to please a woman and vica versa.
His outgoing personality is not personal. Sex is! Any self esteem issues from the past marriage/relationships while growing up even penis envy (not feeling size appropriate) all show in this realm of a relationship. I think it is easier for a woman to fake the self confidence thing in a sexual nature then men.
But.. He is very old fashioned when it comes to sex
Old fashion as sex in the bedroom and him on top? If that be the case intice him to have sex in other places. If your not lying down then new positions will have to be explored. Old fashion as in the men initiate? If he rises to the occassion thats pretty easy to work around
What do you do to spice up the sitch? Ever just jump in the shower with him and exchange body washes? Cook dinner with his help in just a T-shirt?(do not know if you have kids if so scratch this). Or if you are a little more naughty just dance around in a Boa and undies with the radio on while cleaning. (H need not be present but preferred).
until I met Richard
Ahh maybe it is just the name. Happens to be my H's name also.
