I am married to the best man in the world. Almost. Yep, you guessed it; our sex life sucks!
We've been together for 3 years now. Our sex life has always sucked. But I loved him so much, that I thought we would eventually work the sex stuff out.
The problem is his lack of knowledge and, I think, also, a very inhibited nature when it comes to sex. Funny thing is, he is so outgoing and totally not shy in all other areas of his life. He loves to be around people. Loves to party, dance, flirt (only with me). In his professional life, he is outspoken and with interpersonal relationships (like with my difficult mother) he is great.
But.. He is very old fashioned when it comes to sex. It's not a religious thing. He's never been abused. He had a very happy childhood. However, he did have a very bad first marriage.
I have tried since the beginning to "show" him how to love. I have spoiled him rotten! For three years I have rubbed his back, his feet, his head. He has been the receiver of toe curling blow jobs. I totally worship his body. I tell him how good he looks, smells and taste.
And this is new for me. I was married for 20 years to a man I couldn't stand to touch me. I thought there was something wrong with me until I met Richard.
About 4 months after we married, I tried for the first time to talk to him about how to please me. About how I feel about him wanting to please me. I made him so sad, he thought I wanted to leave him. I killed his male pride. And I was as gentle and loving as I could be in all that I said.
I have tried several times since then. But lately, I am not so nice. In fact...I'm really blunt and kinda mean. I'm getting more and more angry after every bad sexual encounter. I'm tired of feeling like a cat in heat.
Orgasm has never been difficult for me until Richard. He just doesn't know what to do and is too inhibited to learn.
The good news is, finally, recently, I got through to him about how important this part of our marriage is. He wants to work on it. And I can tell he is trying in bed. But he still acts like girls have "cooties"
