Ok, HP... you got me posting back on my own thread!
Yes, the cheap-o factor has to go into the equation, not to mention that the Pink line is the first thing you encounter when you walk into the store...and of course, there's the "cute" image vs. anything hinting of sexuality.
I went back to an old thread of mine from last yr ( last Dec.) when my H bought 2 outfits from VS ( the only other time he has done this) for our anniversary. It was amazing ( and somewhat sad) how everything is the same. At that time he got me lingerie that I actually liked ( turns out he asked the salesgirl for help)...feminine, slinky but not at all over the top...just pretty. I put the lingerie on and the same thing happened...no reaction from him. In those posts I talked about the effect the clothes had on me, making me feel sexy, and how I will continue to wear them periodically for my own sensuality, even though it's not H's cup of tea ( not that he was in any way rude...just not responsvie, if you know what I mean). Well, it never happened. Those outfits have stayed in the drawer for a yr. Not wanting to pressure my H takes away some of the fun for me...imagine if I wanted to dress like a complete slut...it would probably shut him down for days.
It was an eyeopener to see I am at the same place as last yr, but maybe now I can come to a place of acceptance. I have been wearing my little outfits last week and H does compliment me, and that is the best I can expect. The play for him has to come under his control...I know now I can assert myself and have fun, but I can't control his reaction.
I do see the many ways he is trying...we ML on Sat acording to the schedule and he gave me some extra attention yesterday after I took a bath. We had an interesting convo where he said that if he wants me to do do something to him, he is comfortable asserting himself and telling me what he wants...he now sees that he was expecting me to assert myself as well, but now understands that I enjoy him just " going for it"...that it's more of a turn on for me ( even though he feels the exact opposite). So we were able to differentiate on that point.
