I know you may be resistent to be that cutsey girl this weekend....but there's obviously something he finds appealing in that. IMPO he's given you a HUGE clue into what turns him on, this is something I just WISH my H would give me some insight to. Don't look this gift horse in the mouth.
I am resistant to being his cutesy girl this weekend; I kind of feel I have moved beyond that, but if he needs to feel that sense of fun and youth, I feel I should go along with it...and it might even be a good thing for me...as long as we can get to a place where he accepts all of me, depression and emotionality included. That's a tough one IHJ. I know what you mean by not wanting to be cutesy. GEL has a point though that maybe you should just go with it for now. It's better than the alternative, no sex. H and I still struggle with this. We have sex much more frequently but it's still not always "grown up" sex kwim? Too jokey and not very sexy at times. But we are doing it so that's better than before right? One step at a time. Good luck this weekend!!
Journey, What if he's not going for cutesy but instead going for Happy?
He's seen you struggle these last weeks with your father's illness and perhaps that outfit in VS spoke to him of fun sex and a happy wife--something that's been lacking in both of your lives lately, due to no fault of your own.
Also this may just be a facet of his sexuality..not the whole kit and caboodle.
Fwiw, H and I went into VS last weekend on our anniversary. We were just browsing and nothing really spoke to either of us--and I like slinky lingerie. It is possible that he went in and didn't see anything so he got the only thing that looked appealing. I can also tell you straight up that if VS didn't happen to have anything interesting out, it would never occur to my H to go to another store and look in their lingerie dept.
I suppose what I'm getting at is that I see a bit of awkwardness in your H but a WHOLE lot of love and devotion and trying to meet your needs. Iow, a lot more good than bad in this situation.
I don't think he wants or expects you to act any particular way. He just wants to see your bouncy ass in the short shorts and your jiggly bits in the tank top. Sometimes it's that simple.
I think you are putting to much into what style of lingerie he bought you. And it will end up being a huge bag of resentment. He did by you lingerie. It was his first time of doing it correct? He stepped out of his comfort zone to do so correct? He let you know he was looking forward to this weekends coming event by doing so correct? So go with that. Take your 40+ year sensuality and turned them puppy's into something that will make him a lion. You don't have to doon pig tails and bobby socks to go along with them. Spice it up.I know you can do it.
Then in a week or two buy him a gift. A piece of lingerie that is more to your liking something sexy but not over the top add some lotions and give it to him prior to a scheduled together day. With a note like " Won't I look hot in this for you Saturday night you will just want to rub me all over".
Make it a game one in which you teach him what it is you like and see if he likes it to (without discounting what he was trying to do for you).
VS for lingerie sucks in my NOT humble Opinon. IHJ he did something WAY our of his comfort zone. He had to go into that store by himself, feeling like a perv no doubt.
He grabbed something simple, cute, not outrageous and pervy.
No big deal. Get a Fredricks catalogue, or go to wicked temptations online. Even Venus swimwear has better lingerie and sexy clothes.
GROSS I am yammering about shopping. Ill deny. You cant prove it.
Ditto the VS not being a good line for skimpy lingerie. I have one piece I bought there that I love. It is simple lace with that peek a boo effect. Other then that they are a good Bra store.
Wicked temptations BF you naughty boy! Not gonna ask how often you skim the internet. But in truth they sell alot of the same lingerie I use to in my store. Dreamgirl and Escante products hold up better then Forplay's and a few others.
Chrissy who has just about every lingerie companys catalog sitting at here feet as she types this.
