Thank you all so much for the kind wishes. My father is struggling with pneumonia and is "out of it"...he is a fighter so keep the prayers coming, my religious friends. My mother amazes me with the love and devotion to him...this is a couple married over 50 yrs whose idea of intimacy is fighting with each other, and yet her love is now so apparent. Gone is the anger...she is so much more accessible to me...we hug and kiss and talk and reminisce. So much wasted time.

Guys...my message is to keep doing the work you're doing and uncover the love that's there. So much missed opportunity...it's sad to me.

Right now in this crisis H and I are relating as supportive friends...not sure why I really can't reach out to him more intimately.

Following along on your threads...no time to comment...lots of good avice...NOP, Julie good to see you back.