In regards to a MC, no, not yet...maybe as a last resort.
In my opinion, and with what I've been through, I'd say this should not be a last resort but the FIRST resort, and as soon as possible. Maybe you can work things out on your own. Maybe not. In hindsight, I think my situation would have been better had we seen a counselor sooner. She wanted to but I resisted. During the time that passed, more resentment built up in the both of us, making therapy all that more difficult. At least he is recognizing there is a problem. He is reading the book. He has an open mind at the moment. A year or two from now he may not be so open.
The other reason for going is that you do not know what either of you has buried in your past that is affecting your actions. It is certain that both of you have things to work through. You may even be able to go through counseling, feel you have a “clean bill or health,” only to find major problems pop up after kids arrive. Then you’re stuck. DB does not deal with this aspect very much, and I feel it is one of its shortcomings. You see many people her talking about their FOO issues. That’s because you can only progress so far without addressing this at some point.
