In the VM I left for H the other day (the one where I compromised about B coming over to work on the bathroom), I asked in PLAIN, SIMPLE English, "Please let me know when you plan on coming over here with B so that I can make arrangements to be elsewhere. B can come to the house, but I'm letting you know that I don't want to be here when he is."
When H returned my call, he said he understood completely and he would call me before having him over.
Guess what?
NO phone call....no prior notice....whatsoever.
They just showed up about 15 minutes ago.
Just seeing his friend B...... .
I am really upset. I asked H to let me know ahead of time, he said he would, but NO.
WHY? Why not do what I asked? Why not stick to the agreement?
H could tell I was bothered by this, looked at me and said, "Don't. I can tell you're upset, but don't you even say a f***ing word to me. I want to get this done, and I want to do it now."
How could he tell? Because I was quiet. I wasn't necessarily giving him the silent treatment, but I just haven't been very talkative since they walked through my door unannounced.
(sigh)
Thanks for listening.
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
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