Had a positive convo with H yesterday. He called around 7pm to say hi to the boys and me. He told me about his day and said he was sorry that he couldn't call me back earlier. I told him no need to be sorry. I figured he was busy with work, so I understood.

Here's the GREAT thing....

H said, "I also wanted to thank you for your message....You have no idea what it meant for me to hear you say what you said....It was just so wonderful....I don't know. I guess it told me that you're....ummm....I can't think of the word..."

"Willing to compromise?" I asked him.

H said, "Yeah! Exactly....You're reasonable....It really meant alot to me. Thanks, Val. I really do appreciate that."

H is supposed to see if B can come over this evening to work on the toilet. MIL will most likely have the kids (she usually does for a few hours every Wednesday). So while they're hopefully here doing that, I'll be out enjoying some very much needed yet inexpensive pampering !

Ok, I AM stubborn . I know it...I couldn't see it back then, but I can see it now especially after hearing H say that I'm reasonable. That told me that he felt I wasn't before. Sometimes I wouldn't budge until I got my way, but most of the time, I'd go with what H wanted but I'd "pout" about it. I think I let him know with my mood that I wasn't happy. I wouldn't stomp around the house, throw a tantrum, or anything else like that...I'm not a kid ...but I think I somehow "controlled" the situation with my mood.

Hmmm....yes, this is good. If I can see these things, it's definitely progress.



Thanks for listening.

Valerie

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown

"Piecing is not for the faint of heart." ~ sage