Following my heart....

[DonH]

"(I know someone probably wants to jump down my throat about this -- "How is H supposed to know how you really feel if you don't tell him?")...."

Might I be that someone? Okay, then since you already know it, I don't have to say it. Plus that is a great first step to progress. The next time perhaps you will say something.

Since you called me out, I might also suggest that you make sure to thank H for his response to the repair and for putting in HBO. Spell it out in simple, plain English (so all of us bone head men can understand it) that you really appreciate that he didn't get upset or even make comments about how much the repair costs, and how much that means to you. Tell him the same about HBO if in fact that is the case. This is the only way to get him to do more of the same. And you do want more of the same right? He will be thrilled that you said something but more importantly, it will cement it into his brain and hopefully help him to continue doing more of the same. It really is important that you do this. In fact, if you do this, we'll take away the spanking for the other little thing.