Well, he was able to do it once before. THis time will definitely be more difficult and he will have to put more time and energy into rebuilding that. Maybe this is something you can discuss with him next time HE brings up where you are/stand as far as the M goes and his coming home. Let him know what you will need from him so he can make an informed decision as to whether or not he can do it.
Quote: Will he meet my needs and wants?
That depends, does he truly know what your needs and wants are? A lot has happened in your sitch, and with the changes in your sitch...your needs and wants change as you become more independant. I kow in my M, this is and was the hardest thing for me....trying to figure out what I needed and wanted from H. Sometimes, this is still unclear to me.
Quote: Looks like I need to dig up my copy of DR again. It HAS been awhile.
Sounds like a great idea. A good way to recenter yourself and your emotions. Maybe it can help you figure out what you need from H to rebuild trust, to believe that his intentions for reconciliation are for the right reasons and for you to remember how far you've come and to know that no matter what happens....you CAN and HAVE done this!!!
Quote: Thank you, (((((SE))))). Really, thank you . This is such an exhausting and confusing sitch to be in. I find myself to be stuck somewhere in-between an LBS and a WAS. Absolutely draining at times, isn't it?
No thanks needed...this is why we are all here..to help each other when we can. And yes, the constant swinging of the pendulum can quite tiring!!!!
Hang in there..you're doing great!! But, I think you know that...you don't need me to tell you!
~SE
I'm moving on...at last I can see...life has been patiently waiting for me.
Me-32 WAH-35 DD-11 DS-4 H left 11-03 Piecing- 12/04 WAH again- 03/07 Married 12 years Divorce final May 15, 2007
