Following my heart....

[ValerieA]

Hello, SE !

YOur H said some positives things especially agreeing in not wanting to mess things up. Shows that he is listening to your side of the not having him rush back into the house. Awesome for you!!

Thanks! I noticed that, too.

Sorry about the no WOWing... But..there's always tonight.

LOL....That might have been a possibility, but H's schedule changed and he's working the night shift for now. That's why he stopped by earlier today.

I agree with cally....you are a SAHM...I'm sure if finances were that much of an issue, you wouldn't be afforded that luxury.

Could you make a trip out here to CA and tell that to my H?

Our finances are better than most, but to H, what we have now or will have in the future will never be enough for him.

You would be awarded spousal support as well as child support in the event of a divorce. Which, unfortunately, brings me to a rather negative point. That is, to make sure his intentions for getting back with you do not stem from financial purposes only.

I have often wondered about this. Probably too much.

In the last few months, H has expressed to me that the kids are a part of why he would like to get back together again, but he really wants to reconcile because he knows that he still loves me, and there's no one else he'd rather be with.

He says he doesn't know why he did what he did, but he is truly remorseful for having done it. H said, "I....I just got lost, Valerie....I don't know how I lost my way, but I did....but now I know exactly where I want to be, and that is with you."

Your story about the car incident....can I suggest you pick up the Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. Might clue you in on how to curb that kind of behavior.

EXCELLENT! Thank you! I was planning a trip to B&N this coming Monday with the kids after school, so I'll put it on my list .

Thanks for your words of encouragement, too, SE ! It means so much to me .