Valerie!!!! Sounds like you had a great night with H. I am so happy for you!!! YOur H said some positives things especially agreeing in not wanting to mess things up. Shows that he is listening to your side of the not having him rush back into the house. Awesome for you!!

Sorry about the no WOWing... But..there's always tonight. If you are up to it, after the kids are in bed...test the waters. See if he is receptive. If you think that would give him a false green light on progressing faster though, then I would reconsider. Just rambling here and shooting out ideas.

I agree with cally....you are a SAHM...I'm sure if finances were that much of an issue, you wouldn't be afforded that luxury. You would be awarded spousal support as well as child support in the event of a divorce. Which, unfortunately, brings me to a rather negative point. That is, to make sure his intentions for getting back with you do not stem from financial purposes only.

Your story about the car incident. That raised a red flag with me. That is no way to treat anyone, especially your W. If this is a pattern from the past, can I suggest you pick up the Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. Might clue you in on how to curb that kind of behavior.

All in all, you are staying grounded. Excellent job!

I had the "night away" discussion with H this morning. Went better then I ever could have imagined!! But, I won't hijack your thread with my BS.

Keep up the good work Valerie!!!!!!

I'm moving on...at last I can see...life has been patiently waiting for me.


Me-32
WAH-35
DD-11
DS-4
H left 11-03
Piecing- 12/04
WAH again- 03/07
Married 12 years
Divorce final May 15, 2007