Quote: Sooo....I want to file for a D and move on. I feel it's what I have to do. Like I said, whatever used to work in this M just doesn't work anymore. It hasn't for a long time.
Valerie,
It's been almost a week since the above statement. What's been going on with you? I know that the decision you have come to is a long and well thought out one. I 've been following you since...well, for a long time. We've both been living vicariously through all of our BBS "colleagues".
I don't want to appear to be prodding you one way or another but, I'm curious... Do you still feel the way you did on Monday when you posted? Are you ready to take that big step? While Divorce is probably one of the most negative and destructive things we can do to ourselves (or have done to us for that matter), in some cases it can also have positives (there I said it!). One thing is that if you go through with this you must be prepared to basically wipe the slate clean in a lot of ways and start over. This will be tough but at least you will begin living on your terms.
I think it's Valerie's time now and I don't think that's being selfish. Please keep us all posted on what's going on. 6 days away starts me worrying. As you know, I've got nothing better to do .
Valerie, you've put up with a lot and you've "stayed the course" (Reagan) for a very long time. There's no shame in making a decision to "stop the insanity" (Susan Powter). I just think it's time to do what's best for you and that may be a new life without him.
"That's just my opinion, I could be wrong" (Dennis Miller)
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