Quote: Pink has given good advice about making yourself happy.
Most definitely.
Quote: I know I can't have a R with my H the way he's acting at the moment, but I still long to have my needs met. He's wearing himself out doing a lot of things, but not the things that will make our R stronger. Lots of promises and saying he's trying and things will be better in the future. No dates, no intimacy, etc. I wish I knew the answer as to why they dont get it, but they just don't! So frustrating!
EXACTLY.
Very frustrating and very draining.
Quote: A big hug to you for opening your heart and telling your H exactly what he needs to be doing.
Thank you, Sheila. (((((((Hugs to you, too))))))).
Quote: I know how hard that is and then to feel like they don't care and that you've put all the effort in with no results. I also know how hard it is to be strong and how easy it is to doubt yourself when they are saying the right things and we want to believe them.
Right again. Although I know H cares when he does AOS for me, but it's not what I'd like to see happen. It's not the way I want to feel that he cares.
But what can I do? I don't feel like there's anything I can do. I can't force him to do it my way. He has to want to do it, and when he doesn't, it hurts. I feel like I'm being neglected all over again....going back to pre-bomb days.
(((((((More hugs))))))) to you, Sheila, Becca, and pink.
Thanks for listening.
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
