Following my heart....

[ValerieA]

Hi, Pink.

I wonder if it would help you Val to do a 180 and go to some fun places with the children and NOT invite him. Make sureyou all chat about it when he is around...so that he feels left out. I would also get him to babysit and go out on your own, do something mysterious to get him thinking.

Been there, done that. In fact, I'm still doing this. I was even doing it before he moved out, and I stopped inviting him along when my invitations were rejected.

When he comes by, the kids always tell him about whatever we did (our day at the park, going to visit family/friends, eating out, renting movies together -- these are all things we used to do as a family...these are all things H has said that he misses very much), and after hearing them talk about it, I can SEE that he DOES miss this. H gets very teary-eyed and choked up.

You know....it wouldn't surprise me if he actually waited until the last few days before his deadline to start coming around. H IS a procrastinator...he always has been...so when the pressure's really on, well....I can just almost sense it. I could be wrong although I don't feel that I am.

I have a strong feeling he's going to come to me at the last minute so to speak and say something like, "Valerie, I'm really sorry about everything...blah blah blah...I want us to be together...I want us to be a family....blah blah blah...I still love you....blah blah blah...."

Words....just words.

They're not enough. They are just NOT ENOUGH.


D, ((((((( thanks ))))))).

Thanks for always being there and listening. Everyone .