But, you know what? The more you do of something, the less the other person does.
You know what? I have noticed this with my H too. It is not only with me but with everyone. It's almost like he enjoys the chase and when he gets to a comfortable place with someone, or a place where he feels confident they are his friend he loosing interest with them. (and me LOL)
I wonder if it would help you Val to do a 180 and go to some fun places with the children and NOT invite him. Make sureyou all chat about it when he is around...so that he feels left out. I would also get him to babysit and go out on your own, do something mysterious to get him thinking.
It's almost like he enjoys the chase and when he gets to a comfortable place with someone, or a place where he feels confident they are his friend he loosing interest with them. (and me LOL) 
