How can I not be certain that he knows?! I've gone into GREAT detail with him MANY times...and I know that many men just don't get it. I've been told this before by a couple of other posters months ago.
I flat out told H that there will be NO reconciliation if MC doesn't happen...I ASKED him if he understood, and he said YES. I told him I WAS SERIOUS, and he said HE KNEW. He said, "I know, I hear you. I WILL call and make the appt."
Has it happened??? NO...and that was over a month ago. Are you telling me that it takes at least a month to get an appt with a MC?! Oh, and that the Cs will never return anyone's phone calls?! Even if you said you called 2 or 3 times?! I'm sorry but that is just ridiculous.
I've also told him VERY specifically what I would like for him to do to make me feel special to him again. I've told him to stop the groping (even before the other day's incident). I've told him to take me out to dinner, to a movie, let's go for a stroll on the beach, let's go to the city like we used to and just hang around Pier 39 for awhile...browse through the novelty shops, etc...and in the ML department, I told him "dirty talk" doesn't do it for me. I told him I did that stuff for him because I wanted to make him happy...I wanted to please him because I know it does...but what about me? I get pleasure out of pleasing him, but every now and then I would appreciate some tenderness. I would absolutely LOVE it.
Has any of this happened??? NO!
It's like it's in one ear and out the other. He tells me he knows and understands yet he does NOTHING.
My guess is that he probably feels like I'm nagging or complaining about the way he does things, and I'M NOT (I talk to him VERY CALMLY and GENTLY)...and what happens when a guy feels like that? Don't they just ignore it after awhile? Let it go? Until what? Yeah...until it's too late.
What more can I possibly do?
He could very easily arrange for his mom, his sister, or my parents to watch the kids so he could do something with me, but he doesn't.
I'm not just sitting around the house either. I have been going out with some friends and GAL. Even by myself, too, and with the boys. I don't call H or make any kind of contact with him...he initiates it all...so I guess you could say that I'm in LRT...been here for awhile now.
I'm tired of the waiting. I've been waiting for YEARS.
Oh, and BTW, S9 told me yesterday that H talked to him on Sunday and said that he wanted to talk to the boys and me together about moving back in... ...WHY bring the kids into a discussion that right now should only be between H and me??!! Why get their hopes up like that?! He hasn't proven anything to me as far as the R goes. I am NOT letting him back in here just because HE wants in.
HE HAS TO EARN IT, AND HE HASN'T.
Thanks for listening.
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
...WHY bring the kids into a discussion that right now should only be between H and me??!! Why get their hopes up like that?! He hasn't proven anything to me as far as the R goes. I am NOT letting him back in here just because HE wants in.
