Val...............Hmmmm why not call his bluff. I mean totally distance yourself. It seems to me he still thinks he can do as he pleases. Like come over and watch movies. Or run around tickling you or groping you. That says to me he very much hasn't seen he may lose you. If you were home alone last weekend why not go out with your friends. Be very very unavailable to him at all. Let him sit and wonder for once what you are doing or who you are with. Let him sit and stew thinking maybe there is a chance you are dating and that someone else may swoop you off your feet.

I don't know. He talks like he wnats this marriage but his actions speak loud and clear. Maybe go through with that lawyer and at least get a legal separation filed. You need to do something to do a 180 completely and give him a jolt.
At least file to protect yourself. As it is now he could walk away with every penny you have and there would be nothing you could do. Believe me I know a girl in the same situation like you where her husband controlled all the money. The only hope she had is that she had a part time job so she had some income at least. Also their children were grown. It seem he is epnding an awful lot of money. I think you need to consider to he may be dating and spending extra time and money doing that right now also. You always seem to be so sure that he is not doing that. But someone is getting all that time of his. And that phone call just still sticks out to me. That is not a slip of the tongue to say the exact woman's name on YOUR answering machine. He also sounds like a high drive guy who is living single with no worries and lots of free nights. Is it possible hi senergies are just tied up right now on someone else? It is kind of hard to have the energy to wine and dine two people?