Hi there.

Just read through your situation and am in a very similar one myself!! My thoughts as I read was that this guy just doesn't know what you want. You need to be very specific!! I am in the same boat with my H I have been married for 14 years...he still doesn't get me!! I am *so* not that complicated either.

My H also gambles...He says he doesn't anymore but I really do not believe him. He may not be...but he will in the future thats for sure. They just can't seem to help it. All I can say to this is try to separate your finaces. We have always had separate bank accounts, but even then it's annoying that he never has money to take me out!!

What I have started to do is to be very specific with my H. Nipping unacceptable things in the bud. I even gave him a list of rules like a 5 year old!! He really appreciated it..(seriously!!) It was only a small list of things that REALLY annoy me LOL.

We don't live together at the moment. But I am trying to work on myself so that I can be more open to accepting him back. Doing more things that make me a happier person instead of someone who is angry and resentful!!

Good luck. Good to read about someone in a similar situation.

Best wishes.
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