Things had been piling up in the house for a while....clutter ....but I FINALLY got it all under control (I think ).
The boys were with H this weekend since he didn't have them last weekend (he was working, remember?). I was taking a shower when they arrived home this evening. When I was done, H told me all about their weekend together. After a few moments, H said, "I'm really impressed with the way the house looks! I can see you did a lot." I thanked him for noticing (that was the first time H EVER gave me any WOA as far as housecleaning goes).
Anyway, H hung around for a bit watching the football game. Then before he left, I was in the laundry room folding clothes and he said, "Something very good or very bad is about to happen soon." I asked him what he meant by that, and H said, "Well....I go for my employment test with XXXXXX (refinery) on Tuesday....it all hinges on how I do....either I'm going to get that job and you'll let me move back in or I don't get it and nothing happens." I looked at him and said, "Are you basing your decision about coming home on whether or not you get this job?" H said, "No...I know that didn't sound good the way I said it, but I didn't mean anything bad by it." He came over to me and gave me a hug and a kiss on my forehead. Then we said goodbye and he left.
We had also talked about finances while he was still here. H trimmed S1's hair a little, so I asked why S9 and S6 didn't get a haircut, too. H said, "Because I'm broke, Valerie. I'm not made of money, you know.".... ....$20? He can't afford to spend $20 on haircuts for his sons? Are you kidding me?!
Now this is where the "old Valerie" would've gone off. This is where I would've "bashed" H over the head with what he's "spending" with his gambling which is FAR MORE than $20....but that was the "old Valerie". I did say something though .
After his comment about being "broke", I said, "Oh, ok. Well...it probably wasn't the best idea to enroll S6 in Tae Kwon Do then, was it? Since it's costing us an extra $65 a month." H said, "No, I know....(sigh)....I was just being an a**hole. I can afford it...I'm just being stupid and bit**ing. I'm sorry."
Anyway, we also talked about our Christmas fund for this year. I suggested to H that we only shop for the kids this Christmas. I figured this would save money and that he would appreciate that very much since he's out of work right now. He said ok and thanks.
Alright, I need to get the kids to bed now. I hope everyone had a nice weekend, and thanks for listening.
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
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....$20? He can't afford to spend $20 on haircuts for his sons? Are you kidding me?! 
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